Learning to trust yourself is a challenge for a lot of people. It remains a mystery why most of us fail to take the time to get to know ourselves and our own personal values. But learning to trust yourself can be one of the most liberating gifts you can give yourself.
The relationships we have with others sets the tone for our lives. Some people have a whole network of community they rely on and crave to be surrounded by day and night. While some people choose to spend as little time with others as possible. Neither of these positions are right or wrong. We are all different and we’re all trying to navigate our lives the best we can.
Trust is something we hear a lot about in relationships. Whether it be romantic relationships, those with colleagues or friends and family. Trust is something that is regarded as a non-negotiable. Because if we don’t have trust with another person, is there any relationship at all?
Your Relationship With Yourself
Therefore, I believe that the relationship you have with yourself is the most important one of all. How can you expect to be your best for others in the relationships you have with them, if you don’t know yourself? If you don’t treat yourself in a loving and kind manner? How can you expect to trust other people if you don’t trust yourself first?
You may be asking yourself “why is it so important that I trust myself?” Let’s look at the reasons why it’s imperative if you’re going to make the most of your life.
When you trust yourself and your abilities, you’ll be more confident and willing to try new things. When you have confidence in yourself, life becomes a little easier in all areas. You’ll feel comfortable to express yourself in whatever way feels the most natural to you. You’ll feel capable of learning new skills and developing yourself, so you reach new levels that you hadn’t considered before.
It’s easy for me to tell you what you should and shouldn’t do and why but doing something new isn’t always easy. So here are a few examples of ways to get started on your journey of learning to trust yourself.
Give Yourself Grace
The first step is always the hardest so let’s start with giving your self grace. You’ve recognised that you need to make this change. Give yourself the credit you deserve. Giving yourself grace is the act of permitting yourself to make mistakes and forgiving yourself for doing so. We all make mistakes from time to time, it’s part of the learning process.
Next time you make a mistake, or something doesn’t go right, give yourself permission to forgive yourself and try again. By taking the focus off the failure and putting it on the fact that you’re trying to improve your life, you’ll find forgiveness is easy and you’ll be ready to try again.
Release Perfectionism
Being a perfectionist can, on occasion lead to some amazing results. But perfectionism is usually based in fear. A fear of disapproval or being judged by others. If you can take the pressure of being perfect all the time off, you’ll give yourself the space you need to love what you do and what you create no matter the outcome. When you release perfectionism, you learn to trust in your ability and trust that the result you create has meaning regardless of the opinions of others.
Listen To Your Internal Cues
Learning to trust yourself means listening to your body and the internal cues it gives you. Your body is communicating with you all the time. So, it’s important to learn to interpret what it’s trying to tell you. When you build trust with your body and your intuition, you’ll have a partner to help you make decisions and you’ll deepen the trust you have within yourself. Take note of when you have a nagging thought that won’t go away, or when you get that sinking feeling in your stomach. These internal cues are the way your body communicates with you. When you start noticing and using this information, you’ll build your trust in yourself fast.
Go With The Flow
Next time you’re in a stressful situation, try to relax and go with the flow. Life is always going to throw difficulties and challenges our way because it’s how we learn and adapt. If you can get to the point where you trust yourself enough to deal with whatever obstacles life puts in your way, then you’ve mastered learning to trust yourself. If life was plain sailing all the time, we’d never learn from our mistakes or grow as humans.
Give Yourself What You Need
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learnt on my personal development journey, is to fulfil my own needs first. I used to deny myself all the things I wanted because I couldn’t afford it. Or it would be selfish to do something just for me or I didn’t have time right now. There was always an excuse. Until I realised that if I denied myself everything I wanted, I would never be able to give others what they need.
If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect others to love you? If you don’t trust yourself, how can you expect others to trust you? If you don’t have time for yourself, how can you expect others to have time for you? Get the picture? If we ignore our own needs, we’ll never be able to receive what we need from others, and we’ll never be able to give them what they need in return.
Final Thoughts
So, give yourself what you want. Give yourself everything you need that moves your life forward. Take time to indulge yourself occasionally. Make self-care a priority. Treat yourself with respect. Start a journaling habit and write down all the amazing things you’ve accomplished. Or all the things you love about being you. Revel in the delights of taking care of yourself.
Make your own happiness a priority and your energy will be transformed. People will start to notice and will want to treat you the same way. You’ll be overflowing with love and kindness. When you’re learning to trust yourself, make the most of the experience. Treat yourself like the precious jewel you are.
Trust takes time to build. It’s a commodity that needs to be earned. By you and everybody else. Set the bar high for yourself so when you get that trust returned to you in your relationships with yourself and others, it’s unbreakable.
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